Do you feel you abuse Service Providers at all?

[divineintervener]

There are some things I do not do with WGs, one in specific is cum-on-face, although I fantacise about it, I feel it is one of the lower animal-instincts and I would feel I would be abusing the girl.

I don't often do CIM either unless the girl is showing total willing, I feel more comfortable usuing a condom for CIM, despite my hangup of using condoms for full sex (I abstain, I don't do BB).

Does anybody else have limitations where they feel they are crossing a line between acceptable service and unacceptable abuse?

 

[Unixmen]

It could be said that sex which appeals to our raw animal instincts is the very best sex . We spend a lot of our lives suppressing our animal instints and perhaps sex is the opportunity to let go . Is this why sex is often better when we have partaken of alcohol or drugs to reduce our inhibititions ?.
I also think that if we fantasize about doing something then we should do it , provided it is with a willing partner and in the case of sex with a WG , that a price has also been agreed .
So , I would have no problem with facials or CIM if the above conditions were met .
I draw the line at fisting , which I do think is abusive but this is only my opinion , and others may consider it to be OK , again provided it is with a willing partner .

 

[John Redcorn]

To be Reviewank, taking my kit off in Reviewont of them could be classed as such!

 

[tkp]

Before this thread goes in the wrong direction let me point out that us girls put do's on our profiles as we are happy doing those things...

It's down to the individual girl what she finds disrespectul and if she's happy with facial or cim then no disrespect...

Believe me, some girls find it sexy

xxx

 

[Eliza B]

well said belinda

many many years ago I used to visit a WG who used to beg me (& as she told
me other clients) to come on her face & in her mouth she loved it & it was a pleasure to see her enjoying it.

That said some ladies dont like facials & thats fine I reckon its for the lady to decide if she wants that.

 

[cherise]

I agree....if you don't like then they don't do.....

 

[Frank T]

Surely just as any job, the WGs must do some things they don't particularly like - not necessarily in general, but you must get humped by some blokes who you can't really be bothered with.

I would guess there must be some lines between won't/will sometimes/will usually/will always/enjoy. Its the lower end of the scale that I am thinking of, where the mp.net is doing something that he knows/believes that the girl is not too happy about.

The enjoys lists are notoriously unreliable, I am certainly no love-god but had quite a few services that are not on enjoys lists without asking for them.

 

[R. A]

Most Wg's would I hope not do anything they didnt feel comfortable with or didnt really want to do. I know I never would.

If I was in a booking and I couldnt be bothered with the guy, I would apologise, make some excuse i.e. dont feel well and I would return his money and end the booking.

I would never go through with anything I didnt want to do and did not enjoy as not only would I then feel used, the client would not be getting the best of me so would be wasting his money too.

 

[Pompal 09.]

Well if he realises this, he shouldn't be doing it then!

I am sure most ladies who are shall we say are experienced would put a stop to anything they were not comfortable with though.

If something goes down a path with me that I am not ok with, I would say stop, but in such a cheeky way it would not create any atmosphere between us both.
Some guys just get caught up in the heat of the moment and do something a lady may not be comfortable with.
Others mind you are just cheeky sods and try it on anyway.

I think it is an abuse, when the guy trys to just dip it in without condom on.
I had a guy the other day, and I knew damn well what he was trying to do, but but a stop to it in my own little non offensive unique way

Lucy.

 

[Pompal 09.]

I agree with this post.
This comes with experience.
When we first met guys like this as a couple, about the 5th person we saw when in the bedroom changed Reviewom how he had been before hand drastically.

In mail and phone contact he had been a delight, the perfect gentleman infact.
Travelled in Reviewom another country and met us up here in a hotel.
All went well in the bar before hand, we both thought this is going to be good.
Got upstairs to his suite and started doing stuff.
He changed Reviewom this lovely gentleman to a complete raging sex maniac.
He was pushing my mouth down on his cock so hard I nearly choked big style.
Sort of telling me what to do in a bad way, forcefully.
Calling me a dirty whore etc.
Now I call myself that at times, as I am, but it was how he said it and the look in his eyes.
When we all stopped, he changed back into the delightful gentleman again.
You had to be there to realise what I mean, that all sounds so tame to read it back but in reality it was not nice at all.

I am now "experienced" and that would never, never happen again. I thought that because he was paying that was that etc.
As Danni has rightly typed, if anything was not right rather than just go ahead with it, I would now give back the money, make my excuses and leave.

The wierd thing was, is that he left a rave review on the meet, so he obviously was happy and oblivious to me not being happy.
I did tell him my feelings in mail after the meeting, which I do realise was too late of course.
He mailed us 2 months later to meet up again, I think I was "ill" that week!

Lucy.

 

[asia]

I wonder how typical the 'gentle'man you refer to above is of us men generally .
I suspect that most of us are wolves in sheeps clothing and are only able to release our real selves in sexual situations .
I don't know at what point in history men became gentlemen but am not sure that it is in our true nature to be so (gentle that is ) .
I could say much more but the hole I have dug is probably deep enough , so will leave it there .

 

[BleacHie]

Well without going into numbers, he was the only one plodd.

I dont want to be treated like a lady in the bedroom area to be honest, not in MMFs anyway!!
But he was way over the top for this little lady.

 

[Quiet girl<3]

Your post had inlightened me, Lucy and I agree there are many sheep in wolves clothing.

But do you think it had anything to do with the drink he may have consumed, not saying he was drunk. but Reviewom experience people do let themselves go when they've had a drink x x x x

 

[Pompal 09.]

Negotiation and agreement seems the best way to me

 

[Lozz]

No the guy was tea total, my guy was driving, only one with alcohol in her was me with a G and T.

He just was not my cup of tea, not a bad guy, just too forcefull for my liking.

Know what you mean about the booze though.
First time I ever had a MMF (not in this way we do now) I had had 2 too many for dutch courage!

Lucy.

 

[FeveDrercor]

I think that any service provider who regularly enters situations she doesn't feel comfortable with, or doesn't like will sooner or later quit this job feeling conflicted with herself, to say the least. It is just like any other job, if you don't enjoy it, you won't be good at it, and I think in the case of escorting it is much more important to feel great while being wiht a gent, as having a great time is the very service you are giving.

 

[Ryan Stanford]

We only had one similar encounter ever, I really felt like you were describing our guest. And we too got through it, being a bit inexperienced back then, but definitely wouldn't now.
I think these guys don't mean to be abusive, at least their behaviour before getting down to business indicates this. I think that they would be the same with their regular partners. Their behaviour probably is because of the lack emphaty and generaly not knowing what to do in bed.
Anyway, in our experience these problems are rare, and usually both parties respect each other, and stay within the limits of mutual pleasure.

 

[Miss.Lucy]

I was tempted to use the Woody Allen quote, when asked is sex dirty? he replied "Only if it's done right." But that would be a cheap gag.

I've got 5 main thoughts on this:

1. I wouldn't like to think that I did anything with a girl that she really didn't like. Quite the opposite, I like to think that she enjoys our time together (not always sure how realistic that is, but I'm sure it has been the case on many visits).

2. Whilst the word "likes" on a parlour gallery / AW profile etc. could mean that she likes the activity, it could also be "is willing to". I guess that's a spectrum Reviewom "she loves it" to "she doesn't really enjoy it, but attracts more interest / earns more money Reviewom it".

3. There's also the fact that some girls will have something on their enjoys list that they won't do. This could be personal (lack chemistry with the guy), down to their mood at the time (we all behave differently at different times), anatomical ("you're sticking that in there!"), personal hygeine etc. etc. So hopefully they have a degree of discretion.

4. Ultimately there is a difference to what a guy expects when he's paying for the privilege. With a girlReviewiend he will probably want to please her absolutely (because of the emotional attachment, and because he wants to have sex again!). When he's paying, it's more about his enjoyment (notwithstanding my comment in 1. above). So the boundaries are likely to be somewhat different.

5. If you want to give a facial, finding one who advertises the service is a lot more convenient that starting to date someone, then waiting the requisite length of time for the "do you mind if I jizz on your face?" question. **

** at least the 4th date. ;-)

 

[Pompal 09.]

No I do not abuse or even feel I abuse any Lady I see no matter what we get up to.

In every single case I always talk first before anything takes place even if it is with a lady I have seen for a long time. If I am suggesting anything new and different I make clear what I want to do and that it is the ladies right to say either yes or no. If she says no then she does not owe me any explanation and it will be taken as a firm no. If the lady decides to explain then I will listen and say thank you . I will not try and talk her round or argue the point.

This is not just respect and good manners it is also essential if you want to really enjoy whatever new wrinkle to a service you are looking for. There is very pleasure or enjoyment for both parties if one of them is really excited and the other is doing it jsut because they feel they should or that they will get a little extra payment. The forced nature of the service will become obvious and any possible enjoyment will drain away.

Since I have involved in seeing Ladies for paid sex I have discovered that there is someone which excited by almost anything your imangination can think of and if they can find a partner to willingly do it with then good luck .

So no I never feel like what I perform with any lady for cash is abuse it is always a consentual act for payment.